Saturday, July 26, 2025

This Is Her Prayer | By Roselyn A. St. Claire

A woman's prayer whispered about a love that maybe isn't hers... yet

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Some songs don’t just play — they pull something from deep inside you.

Some songs don’t just play — they pull.

From the chest. From memory. From somewhere deeper than words.

That’s what Sade’s “Cherish the Day” does.

It’s not just about love.
It’s about surrender.
About the kind of longing that doesn’t beg or chase... but waits.
Holds steady.
Whispers instead of shouts.

There’s a woman I know — maybe not personally, but spiritually.
She speaks softly about a man she cares for more than she dares admit out loud.
He lives alone.
And while that may not seem like a big deal, something he said to her once made it feel like one.

They were talking, casually when he mentioned a quiet fear —
that if something ever happened to him, there’d be no one to help.
No one to call.
No one who’d even know.

He said it like it was nothing. But she heard the weight of it.
The truth wrapped in calm.
The fear beneath the surface.

That kind of fear doesn’t come from nowhere.
It comes from existing in a life where your presence — or absence — might go unnoticed.

She hasn’t been able to let it go.

She doesn’t know why he’s alone. Not really.
Yes, there’s someone — a partner, a spouse—but not one who’s there.
Not in the ways that count.
She doesn’t pry. That part of his life stays tucked away, and she honors the boundary.
Still... she wonders.

How does someone who has someone still end up alone?

How does a woman sleep soundly, knowing the man she once pledged herself to wakes up to silence?
Eats alone.
Comes home to stillness.
And carries fears like that in his chest.

This woman — she doesn’t want to be nosy.
She just wants to be there.

She told him that, too. That when she’s around, he’s not alone.
That she sees him. Holds space for him.
But is that enough?

Because presence isn’t just physical.
It’s emotional.
Spiritual.
It’s being someone’s home — their safe space.
Someone to share the ordinary with:
the small frustrations, the quiet wins, the deep desires.

Sometimes, I think she wants to ask him plainly:
What do you really want for yourself?

His birthday is coming. A milestone year.
The kind that makes you pause, take inventory —
of how you’ve lived, how you’ve loved, what you want next.

And her?
The more time she’s spent with him, the more she craves the chance to be that person.
The one who knows his day before he says a word.
The one who opens the door when he gets home.
Who welcomes him with a kiss or a hug — or something more, depending on the mood.

She wants to cook for him.
Make him laugh.
Run his bath.
Listen to his voice as he unpacks the day.
Rub his back when the weight of it all gets too heavy.

She wants to be the one who holds his hand when he can’t find the words.
Who gives him space when he needs it…
And love when he doesn’t know how to ask.

She doesn’t know what the future holds — not for them.
She won’t pretend to.
But she knows how she feels.
Even if the timeline is short —
Her care for him runs deep.

And when she hears Sade sing, “You only can rescue me… this is my prayer,”
She doesn’t think of being saved.

She thinks of choosing.
Of wanting.
Of standing in front of someone and saying:
“I see you. All of you. And I’m still here.”

This is her prayer.
Not forever. Not for promises.
Just for a chance.
A space.
A moment.

To be the one.


Final Thought:

Maybe love isn’t always loud or labeled.
Maybe it’s simply showing up — quietly, consistently —
for the one whose silence you can still hear.


Wednesday, July 23, 2025

πŸ–€ “When a Man Finally Unpacks”πŸ–€ | πŸ–Š️By Roselyn A. St. Claire

Intimate Conversations Between Friends Series


He didn’t hand me his pain all at once.

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He unfolded it slowly. Carefully. Like he wasn’t sure it would be received well.
Like someone had laughed at it before.

It wasn’t hesitation—it was calculation.
A man measuring the weight of his past against the risk of being misunderstood again.

He didn’t speak to impress me. He spoke to relieve himself.
And for the first time in a long time…
He decided to be transparent with a woman, not just intimate.

“I believe I can trust her.”
Not just with his body. But with his truth.

He gave me memories. Not rehearsed stories—real ones.
Stories about who he was, what he lost, the decisions that haunt him, the silence that protected him.

Some nights… even his tears.


Here’s what most people forget:
When a man begins to unpack, it’s not always because he feels ready—it’s because something in you feels safe.
That is not a moment to be taken lightly.

🧠 It takes emotional intelligence.
πŸ’­ Patience.
🫱🏽‍🫲🏾 And the kind of grace that doesn’t go gossiping when he leaves the room.

When he allows you to glimpse his hidden world, it's truly something special. 

That’s not weakness.
That’s rare strength. That’s earned trust. That’s emotional courage wrapped in masculine restraint.


To the women reading this:
If a man ever breaks silence for you—listen.
Not just with your ears, but with your presence.
Don’t weaponize what he says. Don’t turn his softness into ammunition.
And never repeat his vulnerability like it’s a story for public consumption.

That confession wasn’t meant for everyone.
It was meant for you.


πŸ’¬ Closing Thought:

We talk often about the scars men leave on women.
But the scars women leave on emotionally open men?
They run just as deep… and are far more silent.

We say, “When a man hurts a woman, the next man pays.”
But let’s not forget—when a woman mishandles a man’s truth,
the next woman might spend years trying to reach what was once offered freely.

So when a man finally unpacks—don’t just listen.
Hold it.
Protect it.
And honor the sacred act of being chosen as his emotional home.


Tuesday, July 22, 2025

πŸ’” πŸ›️πŸ’­He Talks in His Sleep… And I Listen | By Roselyn A. St. Claire

Inspired by “Talking in His Sleep” by Toni Braxton

A woman. A name. Not mine.

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So you think you know your lover?
You sleep beside him.
Share his bed,
His breath,
His lies dressed as lullabies.
You think you know.
Until the night betrays you.

Because when he sleeps—he speaks.
Not to you. Not about you.
About her.
A name whispered in the dark,
soft but sharp.
Like a dagger wrapped in silk.

He tells her they’ll be together forever.
Forever?
Is that what he promised you too?

What do you call it when a married man
gives another woman his mouth,
his moans,
his secrets?
Adultery sounds too formal.
This feels more like betrayal with a soundtrack.

You want to forgive.
Maybe you’re overreacting.
Right?
Wrong.
You just wanted to be enough.

But now you lie there,
eyes open while he sleeps,
listening to a story you were never invited into.
He doesn't know you know.
But you do.

And once you’ve heard the truth in the dark,
you can’t unhear it.


Closing Thought:
Some truths don’t come in confessions.
They come in whispers, in sleep, in the space between moans and names not yours.
I used to think betrayal was loud — a slammed door, a shouted lie, a lipstick stain.
But sometimes, it’s quiet.
Sometimes, it’s a man mumbling another woman’s name while he holds you.
And you’re left awake… with a choice.
Pretend you didn’t hear it.
Or start listening to yourself for once.

Monday, July 21, 2025

A Mother’s Perspective: Today, She's Screaming for Help | By Roselyn A. St. Claire


This isn’t about him.
This is about her—a woman doing it all alone.



This is about being a single mother. It describes waking up every day under the immense and overwhelming responsibility of caring for a child who cannot fend for themselves and relies on her for everything.

She is responsible for feeding them.
Clothing them.
Nurturing them. Guiding them.
Correcting them. Protecting them. Counseling them.
Being their therapist when they’re anxious.
Their nurse when they’re sick.
Their teacher when homework gets hard.
Their coach. Their disciplinarian. Their personal cheerleader.
Their 24/7 on-call responder, 365 days a year.

And she does it alone.

Every school payment, every dental visit, every forgotten school supply, every pop-up birthday party gift—it all comes out of her. Her pocket. Her energy. Her spirit.

There is no tag team. No shift change. No handoff at the end of the day.
And God forbid she admits, “I need a break.”
People look at her as if she has failed. Like, even wanting rest makes her less of a mother.
They see her hair undone, her eyes tired, and ask,
"Why doesn’t she keep herself better?"

But no one offers help.
And she doesn’t ask.
Because what’s the point?

She’s been doing it alone for so long that the silence feels safer than disappointment. Familiar, even.

Sometimes, the weight gets so heavy, she thinks thoughts she shouldn’t.
Not because she doesn’t love her children. She does—with every fiber of her being.
But the pain?
The exhaustion?
The constant giving without receiving?
Sometimes it whispers things in the dark.

And then the guilt comes. Crushing.
How could I even think of leaving them when they need me so much?

It’s like being trapped in a role you can’t ever step out of.
There’s no clocking out.
No paid vacation.
No “me time” unless it’s stolen in whispers behind the bathroom door.

Every dollar she earns goes to her children.
She can’t remember the last thing she bought for herself.
Can’t remember the last time she laughed without restraint.
When was the last time she felt joy that wasn’t tied to someone else’s needs?

She wants to reach out to the one who should be helping.
But she doesn’t.
Because she knows how that story ends.
No help.
No call.
No show.

So she cries silently.
But who hears her?

This is more than a mental challenge.
It’s a physical one. A spiritual one.
And she is tired.

Tired of pretending she’s fine.
Tired of showing up through headaches, heartbreaks, and heavy days.
Tired of being everything for everyone and nothing for herself.

Still, somehow, she shows up.
For work.
For her children.
For the world.
Sometimes even for a lover—if she has one.
Because even tired, even broken, she knows how to love.

But today...
Today, she’s not showing up strong.
Today, she’s screaming for help.
Not because she’s weak—
But because she’s human.


Reflection

This is just one woman’s truth. But it’s not hers alone.
There are thousands like her—single mothers surviving in silence, holding it all together with tired eyes and quiet strength.

So if you’re one of them…
You are seen.
You are not alone.
And it’s okay to say you need help.

Let this be the beginning of more honest conversations.
Let this be the moment we stop expecting women to carry it all without rest or recognition.

You are not failing.
You are surviving.
And that alone is extraordinary.


Closing Thought:


If you know a single mother, don’t just praise her strength—lighten her load.
She doesn’t need admiration.
She needs support.

Sunday, July 20, 2025

"Unexpected Detours: From Check-Out to Checking Him Out" | By Roselyn A. St. Claire

πŸ’« And So the Story Continues…

This post picks up from where it all began—the night I boldly walked over to Mr. Digs and said hello. If you thought that was something, buckle up. This was our first real date... and it was nothing like I expected, but everything I didn’t know I needed.


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One Sunday, after a guest had checked out of one of my villas, the cleaning crew failed to appear. It wasn’t an issue—I took it upon myself to handle things. I turned on a video from The Stoic Ranger on YouTube and got started. The routine of preparing the room felt like second nature to me.

To me, prepping a room is an artistic endeavor. It gives me the chance to let my thoughts flow, reorganize, and really breathe. I truly enjoy the process of refreshing a space, whether it means light cleaning or a complete transformation. That day, my objective was straightforward: to get the villa ready for the next guest's arrival. 

Just before midday, my phone rang.

It was Mr. Digs—my latest chapter and someone who occupied more of my thoughts than I cared to admit. I knew why he was calling. The night before, I’d used him as a soft escape from game night, saying it would probably be boring and I might leave early to see him.

The truth? The evening was unexpectedly wild, especially when an old friend showed up. I stayed late. To be fair, I told Mr. Digs the truth. No games, just honesty: “I had so much fun that I forgot to come.”

During our call, he asked if I wanted to go see a live band later that night—one of those regular Sunday vibes at The Cliff Hanger, the same place where we first met. I said yes and added, “But you’re driving.”

We agreed I’d park at his place and we’d take his truck. I'd drive myself home after. Easy. Just like that, we had plans.

The day rolled on in its usual rhythm—one guest out, another scheduled to check in later. Their flight landed on time, but they were delayed, so I mentioned it to him while heading back toward the city. I still had dinner to cook and a whole transformation ahead of me.

He was calm and said not to rush—just come by around 7:30 PM.

“What should I wear?” I asked, half for fun, half for real input.

He tossed out a few suggestions, including something like what I wore the night we met. I landed on a long-sleeved denim top with matching shorts. Not too short, but short enough to hug the right places. Minimal makeup: full lashes, soft color on the lids, and my signature lipstick that shifts shade depending on how I wear it.

On the way to his place, I needed directions, so he sent me a Google Maps link with voice guidance. He was waiting at the gate, arms folded, flashing that quiet grin. This was my first visit to his home since we started talking.

He was still debating which shirt to wear, worried about the night breeze. I told him he looked great as is. Funny enough, we were both in denim—unintentionally coordinated. Cute.

The drive to the lime was smooth and full of chatter. We talked easily, drifting through topics—past relationships, transitions, frustrations. We were both fresh out of long-term situations, but instead of dragging old baggage around, we agreed to just enjoy the moment for what it was.

And that’s exactly what we did.

The lime was alive. The live band sent electricity through the night air—reggae, soca, calypso—we danced to all of it. He  moved in sync with me, his hands teasing and grounding me at once. We didn’t need to speak. It was all in how he moved with me. By the time the band wrapped up their encore, I was completely melted into his energy.

On the drive back down the hill, hunger hit hard. We cruised toward the Boatyard district in search of food. A few kitchens had just closed, but a local pointed us to a nearby club with a late kitchen and a DJ still spinning.

Perfect.

We ordered burgers and drinks and settled at the bar. A few of his acquaintances stopped to chat while I drifted out to the balcony, closer to the music. Before long, he found me on the dance floor again. We moved like we had earlier—playful, intimate, completely locked into each other’s rhythm.

We danced like old friends and new lovers—laughing between beats, stealing glances, and never quite breaking that invisible thread tying us together.

When the burgers finally arrived, we devoured them like people who had danced for hours—because we had. They were hot, greasy, and absolutely perfect.

We stayed for a few more tracks, reluctant to let the night end. But eventually, it was time to head back.

It wasn’t the night I originally planned…
It was better.
Unexpected. Delicious.
Full of quiet sparks and easy magic.

The kind of night that sneaks up on you… and stays.


Friday, July 18, 2025

She Has Her Baby. But Who Has Her? | Roselyn A. St Claire

πŸ’­ Postpartum Isn’t Just a Phase—It’s a Reality

Haunting and Real!

A few weeks ago, I was at the hospital for some personal medical reasons. At the end of my visit, I went to the pharmacy to pick up my prescriptions. While waiting, I saw the partner of a friend of mine trying to do the same.

It turned out my friend had just had her baby a few days earlier and was actually still in the hospital, getting ready to be discharged that same day. He and I chatted for a bit, and not long after, I saw her coming down the steps—tired but glowing, baby in arms, ready to go home.

I walked her to her car and we talked briefly—nothing deep, just the kind of small talk that carries big meaning between women who've walked hard roads. I promised to stay in touch and check in.

A few days later, I did just that. She responded… from the hospital. Again.

She’d been readmitted with postpartum hypertension and postpartum preeclampsia—terms I had heard before, mostly in novels or medical dramas. But now, they were real. They were happening to someone I cared about.

I had no idea how common or serious these conditions were. I’d never had someone this close to me experience them. And honestly, I didn’t know what to say except to be there.

She’s been open with me—brutally honest at times. She’s been feeling low.
Guilty, even.

She told me how hard it’s been to feel anything for her baby in moments when her body and mind feel like they're failing her. That kind of honesty breaks your heart and builds your respect all at once.

She’s getting help. She has a mother that we all need in our lives—steady, supportive, there without judgment. She’s journaling, praying, and surrounded by a small community of people who love her. And she has me.

But hearing her speak took me back. Way back.


🎧 I remember what it felt like to be a single mother.

To be promised a life full of support. To believe that the presence of the child’s father would somehow make things feel less heavy, more manageable.

And then to realize—in those vulnerable, bleeding, aching days just out of the hospital—that the person who should be there is not.

The heartbreak in that realization is sharp.
It’s a slap in the face.
A kick in the gut.
A silent scream that never really stops echoing.

When the support you expected never comes, and you realize you’re in this alone, something shifts inside you.

And it doesn’t stop with the newborn phase. Every hard season that follows—sleepless nights, fevers, scraped knees, school runs, heartbreaks—just reinforces that truth:
You're still alone in something you never made alone.


πŸ—£️ To the sisters who are walking through this now…

You’re not alone.
Even if you feel like it.
Even if it looks like no one sees you.

Please, speak up.
Talk.
Vent.
Cry.
Scream if you need to.

Just don’t bottle that pain.
Because what you keep locked inside will wreck you—mentally, emotionally, physically.

And the last thing you want is for your child to feel the effects of a love they can’t fully reach because you’re drowning in silence.


🌱 What she has is what every mother deserves:

  • A support system

  • Her faith

  • Her voice (in a journal or out loud)

  • And someone who checks in—not just once, but again and again

You deserve that too.


πŸ’‘ And if you need more? Please—get professional help.

That means reaching out to your:

  • OB/GYN

  • Primary care doctor

  • Therapist or mental health specialist

You may also benefit from:

  • Medication (if recommended)

  • Support groups

  • Childcare assistance

  • House help from friends, family, or the community


🧠 Want to learn more?

Here are some solid resources to help you understand what postpartum conditions look and feel like—and how to get support:

πŸ”— Mayo Clinic on Postpartum Depression
πŸ”— Mayo Clinic on Postpartum Preeclampsia
πŸ”— Healthline on Postpartum Hypertension


Don’t go on this journey alone.
And if you're lucky enough to know someone who’s going through it… check in on her. Not just once. Consistently. Gently. Honestly.

Because sometimes the biggest difference is knowing someone sees you—even when you don’t know how to ask 

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My Crush, His Touch, A Beginning | By Roselyn A. St Claire

Confession, Contact… Chemistry” 

It started with a bold confession, a soft touch, and a phone call I’ll never forget. I wasn’t expecting much—just a smile, maybe a new friend. But that night at The Cliff Hanger, I unknowingly stepped into a story I haven’t been able to walk away from since.

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The weekend of my birthday, I made plans with my usual crew to head up to The Cliff Hanger for some live band music, a few drinks, and good vibes. It was the perfect spot for everything we needed—food, fun, and a mixed crowd of people just out to dance and let loose on a Sunday night.

That night, my group was classic: three of my gay friends, three of my lesbian friends, and me—the usual crew. Although a few members couldn't make it, the energy was still high as we stood right at the front, soaking up the live music. We had been there for a few songs when my eyes fell on a figure across the dance floor.

Mr. Digs

A man I’d admired from a distance for years.

We had crossed paths before—briefly and without any significant interaction—but my crush on him was real. When I spotted him in the crowd, something changed within me. I leaned over to Cleo, who was standing right next to me and always seemed to have the inside scoop, and whispered, “I want to go over and say hello to Mr. Digs.”

Cleo flashed a knowing smile. "Go for it," he said. Then, casually—almost as an afterthought—he added, "However, he's involved."

That should have been the warning sign. Perhaps it was, but it didn't stop me. The truth is, I had no ulterior motives; I wasn't trying to steal anyone's partner. I just wanted to be bold and express my feelings. I hoped to make a grown man smile. What was the worst that could happen?

I went ahead and did it.

I made my way through the crowd, heart fluttering, keeping Mr. Digs in my line of sight the whole time. When I reached him, I introduced myself.

“Hi, Mr. Digs, my name is Tabitha Rose, and I’ve had a crush on you for quite a while now. Tonight, I decided that I should tell you.”

His face lit up with a big, genuine smile. He looked surprised but pleasantly so. I don’t remember if I gave him my number or if he asked for it. It’s a blur now. But after a quick exchange, I turned and made my way back to my group, proud of myself for having the courage to say it out loud.

A little while later, as he was leaving, I felt a gentle hand brush against my back—just the lightest touch grazing the skin exposed by my sleeveless cotton dress. It wasn’t bold or inappropriate, just enough to catch my breath. I turned, and there he was, smiling, repeating my full name and number back to me like a secret he intended to keep. That touch was the first of many, lingering all the way home.

Later that night, my phone lit up with a message from Mr. Digs.

“Good night, It was a pleasure meeting you earlier. 

Please confirm receipt of this message. Is your name spelled with a 'y' or an 'i' ? 

Are you able to take a call now?”

I confirmed. I responded. And I said yes to his call.

And just like that, with a few polite questions and his voice in my ear, the whirlwind began.

Reflecting on that time, it was a moment of pure innocence—beautifully and boldly innocent. I wasn't attempting to change either his life or mine. I didn't expect anything beyond that brief interaction; I simply wanted to share my truth. However, the universe has a peculiar way of opening doors when you least expect it. That single encounter led to many more, and that man, Mr. Digs, became much more to me than just a crush.

He became... an addiction

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Sometimes all it takes is one bold moment—a confession whispered across a dance floor, a brush of skin, a voice on the other end of a late-night call—to shift the course of everything. I didn’t plan to fall into anything with him. I only wanted to tell the truth. But that truth unraveled into something magnetic. Something I still can’t quite walk away from.

So maybe it started as a crush.
But it’s what came after—the chemistry, the quiet moments, the craving to be in his space—that keeps the story alive.

Thursday, July 17, 2025

πŸ’¬ Let’s Talk About Sex—No, Really πŸ’¬ | Roselyn A. St. Claire

We’ll moan.
We’ll grind.
We’ll arch our backs and say all the right things in the dark.

But talk about sex in the light of day?
Crickets.

We undress for each other, but keep our desires clothed.
We share our bodies, but not our truths.
We fake moans, avoid eye contact, and call it intimacy.

But real intimacy? That takes guts.
It takes language.
It takes saying, “That feels good… but I want more.”

You sleep with them. But can you talk to them?
Can you say what turns you on, what doesn’t, what you secretly crave when the lights go out?

Most of us can’t. Or won’t.
Not because we don’t want to—but because we’re scared.
Scared of judgment. Scared of rejection.
Scared of ruining the illusion.

But what if silence is the real turn-off?

Let’s talk about sex. Let’s talk about real pleasure.
Let’s talk about what happens when we stop faking it and start feeling it.

It’s different with everyone—yet somehow, we’re all the same.

To write this blog, we spoke with people in romantic relationships, marriages, partnerships, friendships-turned-lovers, and complicated spousal situations. Heterosexual couples, lesbian couples, same-sex relationships between women, studs, and those in-between.

Because people—men, women, and everyone in between—are drawn to each other for many reasons. One of those reasons? To be intimately involved.

But here's my question today:

Are we actually comfortable when we come together to pleasure ourselves, or are we faking the comfort along with the moans?


Let’s get real:

Why is talking about sex with the person we’re actually having it with... the hardest part?

If sex is supposed to be intimate, why are we so scared to talk about what we actually want?

What’s stopping us from having honest conversations that could make our sex lives unforgettable?

Why do lovers go silent when it’s time to speak about pleasure?

How do we sleep together every night—but avoid the one conversation that could make it better?

Why do we act like talking about sex is riskier than having it?

Is our fear of rejection ruining our chance at better sex?


Maybe the better question is:

Does anyone ever really satisfy us the way we want to be?

Are we hiding behind the good girl or tough guy personas when what we really want is to scream out,
“Yes, baby, right there…”

Or better yet, to have a mature, sexy conversation about what works and what doesn’t—because let’s be real: sometimes he or she just isn’t cutting it.

Some people vibe off their partner’s sounds, expressions, and body language—but what happens when your partner doesn’t give you any of that?

They just lie there. Silent.

No “Ooohs.”
No “Ahhhhs.”
No “Yes, baby, right there,”
No “SΓ­, papi... asΓ­, asΓ­.”
Nothing.

Apparently, in some hookups and long-term relationships, one partner just doesn’t feel safe enough to express themselves sexually.

Fear of embarrassment? Fear of being judged?
Just... plain fear?

In my opinion? That’s not fear. That’s disconnection.

Wouldn’t you want to know if you're with someone who’s only there to play the role, but not to feel it with you?

Wouldn’t you want to know if you’re loving someone who has no idea how you like to be loved?


Let’s talk about facts.

Whether you’re slim, thick, overweight, fit, sex requires comfort.
Before, during, and after.

That means caresses. Touch. Care.
Not just “take this and go to sleep.”

Even if you’re going to fall asleep right after, there should be time taken before—to ensure your partner is happy, satisfied, and feels wanted.

Some people say, “I’m just not that type of person.”
But surely there's a line—somewhere—where you say:
“I want to love my partner in a way that brings us both joy. I want to be present.

Then some partners insist you must shower every single time before they touch you. Ouch.
Where’s the comfort? Where’s the desire if it's conditional?


From the interviews:

πŸ’¬ “My partner trembles. ☺️ Toes curl. He often catches a cramp in his leg. It’s the only time he moans—more or less he sounds like a car… mhmmmm… mhmmmm… mhmmmm.

During sex he’s quiet, but when he’s about to cum, he clenches his hands, his breath hitches, and he always kisses me right after. Like a thank you in body language.” πŸ₯΄

πŸ’¬ “When I cum, my toes wiggle.”

πŸ’¬ “He usually just falls asleep right after.”

πŸ’¬ “I moan and groan until I’m comfortable. Once I get relaxed, I become more vocal.”

πŸ’¬ “They like it when I talk dirty to them.”


So... what makes us truly relax and enjoy sex?

Do we rely on our partners for cues?

Sure, bodily actions can help guide us. But sometimes people have spent so long pretending, they get lost in the act.

When you're searching for love, and you’ve been knocked around emotionally by people who didn’t accept you for who you really are... You start to mask yourself. You stop asking for what you want. You try to perform instead of connect.

And if the person you're with doesn’t have legit feelings for you, doesn’t see you beyond the body—you’re never going to get to that point of mutual sexual peace.


There’s a saying:
It’s not what you say. It’s how you say it.

Some people are easily offended.
Some partners get defensive—even when you’re trying to help them, please, you better.

But it’s okay to say:
"Babe, I like this…"
"I’m not really feeling that—can we try this instead?"

That kind of honesty takes maturity. It takes trust. But when done right, it takes your sex life from average to transformational.


So here’s the challenge:

Ask yourself…
Are you stifling your sexual desires out of fear?
Do you make your partner feel safe enough to express theirs?

It’s not just about having sex. It’s about being free enough to say:
“I want to feel good. And I want you to feel good with me.”

Let’s talk about sex.
Let’s talk about pleasure.
Let’s talk about honesty.

Let’s stop pretending and start connecting. πŸ–€


Sympathy Sex | When Comfort Turned to Heat - By Herman Kingsley - Edited By Roselyn A St. Claire

It was only a few days after the passing of my spouse. πŸ•―️ Strangely, I wasn’t in much of a somber mood. We’d been falling apart for some ti...